Which two words can effectively help you get out from being stuck in your business (and life)?
OWN IT!!!
Four years ago I was at the lowest point in my life. I suffered depression and anxiety for many years but that period was the worst. I had a teaching job that I hated, I lived with a family member that was toxic for my wellbeing; I hated everything about my life. I’d wake up and go to bed in tears everyday (and many times in between). It took a long time before I clued into what was the cause of all this pain- I didn’t own my life. I felt like I was at the mercy of everyone around me and if they were mistreating me then it was their fault. I BLAMED everyone for my situation and saw myself as the innocent bystander caught in the middle. I was looking for outsiders to blame and wouldn’t dare dive deep to see what was going on on the inside.
I didn’t own my life at all. Not my feelings, inner wounds, my desires, my talents. None of it. You know where that got me? Even deeper into a dark hole.
When I took ownership for my life the results were mind boggling- yup BOGGLING (I love that word).
I started taking responsibility for my decisions that allowed me to stay in unhealthy environments. I can blame others for being cruel but I can take responsibility for remaining in their presence or not setting up healthy boundaries. Once I did that it was much easier to then move forward and start making decisions based on what felt good for me; decisions that were for my own well-being; decisions that would move me towards the life I desired. Now I live in my favorite city in the world, having left the cold and snow. I’m back to EXPLORING and TRAVELLING the world. I’m working on my business which I love, and the relationship I have with my family is on the path to healing and being stronger and healthier than ever before.
All this because I STOPPED BLAMING others and took back my control. It cost me nothing other than time, and once I realized my life was how I CREATED it, the choices I made came easily and effortlessly.
How do you start to OWN IT?
- Give yourself PERMISSION to take ownership over your life!
- Realize what is your RESPONSIBILITY in your life right now.
- Look at what aspects of your life are not inline with your TRUE self, your desires or ultimate goal.
- Get CONNECTED with yourSELF!!! You’ll thank me later. It’s the greatest way to tap into your intuition, steer you in the right direction, help to alleviate loneliness, and allow you to create the life you always desired. Yup just from looking inwards.
How to GET CONNECTED?
Close your eyes and breath. If you aren’t used to taking a few moments to focus on your breath it can be frustrating to keep your focus and allow your thoughts to get quiet. Don’t worry- as the queen of exploration (inner and outer worlds), I have been right where you are and after a few short practice sessions I was able to hear my inner guide loud and clear.
When you connect with your inner guide that’s where the magic happens.
That was the moment I realized I’m on my very own journey. When I realized I am living this life for myself (in a non-egotistical kind of a way), I was able to stop comparing myself to others and own where I was in my life at that moment.
Don’t pass the responsibility of your life off to someone else, it won’t get you very far because they are also responsible just for themselves too.
When you are connected with your inner self:
Ask yourself the questions you have been pondering for so long- should I take the opportunity to speak at the success summit next month? Should I book that ticket to Florence which I have always dreamed of visiting? You’ll get your answer and then watch out because you are going to soar!
By listening to your inner self you are owning your life. You are taking back your control and when you are in control you can make the best decisions for you to move your business forward and then finally starting living a life you are excited to wake up to everyday!
Much Love,
