You’re just too…

You’re just too…
When you give in to the noise that others are trying to force on you, without realizing it you may find yourself smiling, and turning into a pretzel to make others happy and like you.

Your too...

“You’re too intimidating
You’re too deep
Learn to be more shallow, you’ll have an easier time in life
You show too much of yourself
You are a know it all
You think you’re sooo smart
You are too honest
You are too loud
You are too loud
You are too loud
You are too loud”

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I didn’t want to. I didn’t realize it. But I had listened to them all:
I’m too intimidating, so I’ll only be sweet and friendly
I’m too deep, so I’ll talk about the weather
I’ll learn to talk about hair and nail polish
I’ll hide who I am
I’ll dumb myself down
I’ll keep my mouth shut
I’ll be quiet
I’ll be quiet
I’ll be quiet
I’ll be quiet

I explained to a close friend why I used to keep disappearing every few months and had chosen to spend my time happily alone. “Because when I’m alone I can be me. I can be loud, and silly, and smart, and funny, and deep, and enjoy every ounce of my being. I love myself and miss who I am when I spend so much time trying to be quiet in front of others; trying not to offend anyone with my personality.”

Lesson learned: There are 8 billion people in this world they won’t all like you- that includes potential clients.

If someone says to you “ You are too….”, unless the last world is fantastic or amazing block that shit out.

Too fucking bad that they don’t like the fact that you swear. Too FUCKING bad.
TOO bad for them that you are too shiny, too sparkly, too silly, too funny, too smart, too deep, too talented.
TOO FUCKING BAD for them that they can’t see your beauty.

When you give in to the noise that others are trying to force on you, without realizing it you may find yourself smiling, and turning into a pretzel to make others happy and like you.


Suivant/Next as we like to say in Montreal.

When you give in to the noise that others are trying to force on you, without realizing it you may find yourself smiling, and turning into a pretzel to make others happy and like you.

But it won’t make you happy.
It won’t bring you joy.
It won't attract your most ideal clients and opportunities because they can't see who you really are!
It won’t get you the kind of long term and fulfilling success I know you are searching for.

When you finally let yourself out to play- to be truly seen in the world- Self-Sabotage can rear its ugly head.
“Who do you think you are being too loud, too opinionated, too loving, too kind, too JOYFUL?”

This act of keeping yourself small, keeping yourself in a state of people pleasing. Keeping yourself in a state of FEAR for showing your true colours to the world is Self-Sabotage.

Self-Sabotage is a gift.

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Much Love,
Adrienne